To Love Thy Self

So yesterday I was on twitter and the twitter topic at the time was "you're single because" and someone tweeted "you're single because you don't love yourself". While the statement didn't hit home per se, it did get me to thinking. How can you love someone else when you don't love yourself? So then my next question was how do you love yourself exactly? Can you love yourself as you love other people. The best definition of love I have seen so far was provided to me by my homeboy Kellen. Kellen defined love as the ability to see an imperfect person perfectly. Nobody knows your imperfections more than you. Usually you see imperfections in yourself that nobody else can see. So would it be safe to say that its harder to love yourself than it is to love others?

Even in knowing your imperfections, you must ultimately love yourself in order for others to love you. You must ultimately learn to accept who you are with all of your imperfections and learn to love yourself in spite of these imperfections if you want someone else to love you. So in this epiphany, I have realized that I have some things that I personally need to work on. It is not that I do not love myself. I just have some imperfections within myself that I need to come to accept in order to love myself completely...to love myself as I love others. I have an internal battle that I must fight and win before I can expect someone else to love me. So for right now its me time. I know this is not going to be easy because I'm not going to stop caring about him, and I'm not going to stop wanting to be with him. But how can I expect him to accept me and want him to be with me if I haven't totally accepted me.