Undue Process

"All men are dogs." "All women are trying to be in relationships" All...All...All...

I really dislike generalized statements, and further dislike to be generalized and categorized unfairly. I've never been the one to say that all men are dogs or all men are whores. I give every person that I choose to get involved with or be friends with an equal opportunity to show me who they are because I believe that everyone is uniquely different. Just because Chris did me wrong doesn't mean that Will is going to do the same.

For the first time in my life I have found myself having to deal with this phenomenon, and I really don't know how to handle it. This person has been done wrong by some women in his past, and now its just like "all women are this...or all women want that". All I've asked for and continue to ask for is a fair chance to prove myself. To show that I'm not like "all women", but its been hell trying to even get that chance. I understand protecting yourself from getting hurt repeatedly. Nobody wants to get hurt. But if you continuously shut someone down before you even give them a chance then how will you even know if they are like "all women or all men" or if they are truly different?

It really bothers me sometimes because I hear him say describe what he wants in a woman, and talk about what he likes and what he is open to. And, in my head I'm like if you'd just give me a chance to show you who I really am then you'll see that I'm all of that and more. Sometimes I want to throw my hands up and say fuck it, but something in me won't give up. So, I continue to fight hoping that one day I'll get the chance that I've been asking for.